FetLife

Right on your first visit, you see a Facebook timeline where you get some updates from your network. If you click Explore you get videos and pictures of different people in Pinterest-Style. You can click all pics without a paid membership, you can follow other people, just like you can add friends. If you want to see the videos though, you have to buy a paid membership for $5 a month.

All active profiles have a lot of information about them and when you check out your timeline, you get all updates from them including comments about them by other users.

The "Explore" tab also comes to an end pretty fast if you don't have a membership, but still, you get a lot of pictures if you visit often enough and to get an idea on how big the community is.

FetLife has members all around the world and people are adding events "near you" all the time. You don't have to live in the US to get to events nearby. I tried to find events in 5 different cities in the US, Europe and Asia there was ALWAYS an event the next weekend. I just think that a filter would be good too here, as I got a lot of queer events, which I am just not interested. And I guess they're a lot of gay people, who are not interested in straight events - but anyway.

If you have a kink and want to live it, or if you are just curious, if other people are into "the kink that just you are", FetLife is an awesome place to go. The $5 bucks should not hurt if you get to meet like minded people honestly.