Why Do You Watch Porn? Fear of Rejection, a Lack of Sex or Just Because You Like It?

Why do you watch porn? Outside of the fun factor, going deeper if you think about why you do what you do, it’s kind of like trying to solve the famous riddle: what came first: the chicken or the egg. Sex is so basic to our existence that we all like to think of ourselves as experts in the matter and being modest has no place in porn. The Porngatherer finds it fascinating what drives people to like certain types of porn, that’s why we review so many categories, but what’s more important is that we want those using our site to not just enjoy porn, but have it enhance their sex life, not simply replace it.

For lots of men dealing with rejection and experiencing the lack of sex can be mutually intertwined, meaning that we are aware that one can’t provide a plain answer to this question quickly. A good place to start might be using the Scientific Method while you drink a couple of beers in a quiet contemplation spot, preferably a place like Hooters.

No seriously, we all want to know what drives us when it comes to sex so we can find total satisfaction and not always feel like we are missing something, whether it’s in a relationship or a porn session. Most of us healthy, heterosexual guys can freely admit dreaming about being in a relationship with random lusty women and we bet that a majority of us have come up with more than a few possible sex scenarios just thinking about it – it doesn’t matter is it’s cougars, MILFs or Teens who are at the very peak of their sexuality. But fantasy is a whole different story!

Still, it’s hard to shake the fear off  that if that lustful seductress suddenly decides to change her mind and say “No” to us. How would that rejection feel? To many men terrifying to the ratio of the more beautiful the woman, the more painful the rejection.

So what actually happens when a woman rejects us? Despite the pain of a wasted erection, what causes the fear exactly? Believe it or not a lot of men turn to porn to avoid these rejection-caused mechanisms.

Every time a woman says  “Yes” a man improves his game and every pair of those widely-spread legs along the way encourage masculinity to feel more potent. So when rejection happens it’s quite natural for it to negatively affect our self-esteem. This also applies to monogamous gentlemen as well since having regular intercourse – even with the same partner – can have numerous positive effects both on men’s mental and physical health. Take that away and there is a tough reality to face. One that porn makes feel better. There are also a whole other range of problems that rejection and lack of sex cause because the females often claim to have ‘headaches’ after the first couple of years of dating. And that’s another reason to turn to porn altogether!

What Happens Next

So once we’ve dealt with rejection which is inevitable men need to find a way to deal with the imbalance it causes without porn so they don’t get dependent. Avoiding thoughts of not being good enough is the first step since women can sniff out fear, and spiraling down into negativity won’t help. Outside of porn, there are healthy ways to cope with rejection and possible fear by trying to process the matter in a more positive and less self-effacing manner. You can boost your confidence by telling yourself it’s her loss. And be reassured the dry spell won’t last forever and you’ll get laid again or maybe realize that usually after a big NO there is always a big O! Motivational quotes are great for men instead of falling into watching hours of porn, so take one and make sure it becomes your personal mantra when you feel rejected.

It’s okay to be afraid of rejection, it’s actually normal so don’t succumb to despair since there are so many positive approaches that you can take to get over it and not get addicted to porn. The best way being: move on to your next target! Joking aside, fear can only hold you back and there is nothing wrong with having to be on your own, once in a while, and not having sex. Porn is a great reliever of that, but don’t get too used to it. Because your remote control and console don’t have the word “No” etched on them, and you don’t want to lose too much time living in fantasy, when you could be out there fucking!